7 Habits of Highly Likeable People

7 Habits of Highly Likeable People7 Habits of Highly Likeable PeopleEveryone wants to be well-liked its in our nature as people. But its hard to pinpoint what exactly it is that makes us more likeable. Is it a magic charisma that attracts people to us? Or maybe being outgoing and friendly? Or having an agreeable personality that doesnt put people off? Though there are plenty of theories floating around about what makes someone well-liked, here are seven things that well-liked people always do- and that you can do today to make yourself a more likeable and magnetic person.1. Dont JudgeNo one likes being judged, but it can often be difficult to avoid judging the actions of the people we work with or who work for us. And as much as we may try to disguise our judgement, our physical responses can be pretty transparent. Well-liked people know this, and instead of trying to hide it, they make the conscious choice to leid judge others. If they are managers or supervisors, they make rational decisions about people based on data and results, not emotional reactions to personalities. In addition, they have accepted the fact that they cant, and shouldnt, try to control or to change the lives or opinions of others.2. Get PersonalWell-liked people have mastered the delicate dance of getting personal without getting too personal, especially in a work environment. They break down walls by getting real- telling you about their issues and problems but without dwelling on them. They also tell you about the good things happening in their lives, without bragging or trying to look good. Their genuine willingness to be vulnerable and to take things to a personal level naturally attracts people to them.3. Ask People About ThemselvesRather than spending an entire conversation talking about themselves, well-liked people instead put the focus on the people theyre with. If you dont bother to ask questions about the person youre with, or give the person a chance to talk about him or herse lf, youll put the person off by clearly demonstrating that you care more about making yourself look good than actually getting to know the other person. Well-liked people know that people enjoy talking about themselves, and they ask questions to prompt them to do just that- building stronger relationships and their own likeability.4. ListenTheres no point in asking questions if you arent going to listen. Active listening- where you respond to what people are saying with timely verbal and nonverbal prompts, conversation reinforcements, and questions- is a skill that well-liked people have mastered. And they make a point of not looking at their smartphones or computer screens while theyre talking to someone else. This makes the other person feel important, which builds your likeability.5. RememberOf course, to remember, you must first be a good listener. Think about a time when your babo remembered something important in your life- a childs graduation, or your upcoming birthday or wed ding anniversary. Likeable people remember things about those they work with, and they make sure they let those people know that they remember. Listening and remembering shows that you value your conversations and time spent with other people, which in turn leads them to value their time spent with you.6. Dont Take Yourself Too SeriouslyAt appropriate times, likeable people joke, laugh, and are just plain fun to be around. Who doesnt want to be around someone who can share a good laugh? They have unorthodox business meetings, and they like to surprise the people they work with. Youll meet at the office one day and at the baseball field the next. These people know the importance of lighthearted fun on the job, and they try to incorporate it into their daily life, at work and at home.7. Be HospitableLikeable people know the meaning of hospitality, and they arent afraid to invite you into their office or even their home for a meal, a meeting, or a cup of coffee. Opening up your office to someone is an act that never goes unnoticed, and opening up your home to someone is like opening your heart to that person.If you arent already doing these things in your business life, try taking on a few, and watch how quickly the people around you respond. You might be surprised at just how likeable you can be with just a few changes in the way you treat others.More From Inc.3 Ways to Make a Genuine Impact Simply by Saying ThanksWhat Working From Home Really Means6 Ways to Make Time Your FriendPhoto of man with balloon courtesy of Shutterstock.